I go through the ritual, but only because it's generally done. But awkward situations sometimes come up. Should I send a Christmas or birthday card this year to my lately ex-sister-in-law? At what point should a Christmas card to my brother also be addressed to his new partner?

I donate, instead of sending cards. That, and I usually work extra shifts at Christmas so I don't really have the time.

We did get one christmas card last year that said that they would not be sending cards this year, but would be making a donation to a charity (I think it was for MS) instead. Sounds good to me! We did that in work too - everyone gave a couple of pounds and we gave it all to a charity instead of giving out cards.

Which begs the question ... How does one let people know that one is donating to charity instead of sending them a card?

[Chalky] You send them a charity card.